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This morning on the twitters, Erica Hayes asked, ‘Why must all female villains be superior smart-asses? Can’t we have some real people?’

We went on to discuss how most female villains are bitchy and catty, which emphasises their lack of power and leads to their downfall.

As this idea percolates, I venture further afield…

Life imitates art.  Popular culture leads more than it follows.  Acceptance of homosexual couples has been preceded by TV series and movies normalising acceptance of these couples.  (We have a way to go, so we need more of same.)  Women portrayed as bitchy villainesses and melodramatic characters creating their own dramas in soapies teach women how to gang together to bully a perceived competitor and how to create unity in a group by creating a common enemy.  My daughter used to come home from friends’ houses having watched soapies and learnt how it was done, telling me ‘But it’s so true to life!’

The typical high school in-crowd scenario shows the in-crowd feeling so threatened by the geeks or so vulnerable within their own group that they focus their energy on making the geeks’ lives a living hell in order to shore up their own position.  While this is a cliché, done to fucking death in popular entertainment, there is a lot of truth to this trope.  Unfortunately this particular trope has been cut and pasted into every genre, both in the form of solo villainess and villainess with Greek chorus or minions.  Even many feminist writers resort to feminine politics and bitchiness as plot devices, thus reinforcing the status quo.

A deeply ingrained cultural belief in the subordinate status of women thus disempowers women, teaching and reinforcing their scrabbling over each other for the approval of men (the seductress villain), the insane destroyer of men (‘if I can’t have your approval, I’ll destroy you’, the monstrous feminine villain) and the bitchy villain (I’m not really powerful so I’ll be nasty instead).  Humans are like apes, whose hierarchies are established and maintained with violence, keeping the vulnerable down so that those further up the food chain can feel better about themselves and be groomed by their immediate subordinates.  That’s right, I am saying that the chorus surrounding the Queen B___ is actually picking fleas and grooming her hide.

The conversation that Erica started went on to discuss true power, and how true power can be quiet.  Think of the number of villains – male and female – who have snatched defeat from the jaws of victory because of the ‘big reveal’ when they should have just shot the damn hero and been done with it.

One real-world villain with true power – Hitler – was protected by his subordinates obeying his commands.  There was no need for bitchiness or for Hitler to needle or aggravate anyone. In contrast, female villains are often portrayed as insecure mouthy bitches on heat, too powerless to win via intelligence, technology or skill.  Female protagonists can be written as powerful, especially within a team, where they are sassy, not bitchy, and have great strengths (although too often are in a subordinate role).  Why aren’t female villains part of elite teams, with sassiness or quiet menace emphasising their power?  Or the solo villain spins a web quietly, insidiously… I saw a movie where the big reveal was the president’s wife had the president murdered.  Her artwork seen through the movie looked abstract but at the very end she arranged separate canvases in a group and, seen from the right angle, it was a spider in a web.  The movie recognised the relative lack of power she had as the wife.  I was almost ambivalent at the close: she was a female villain who was getting away with murder and yet I felt some small sympathy for her motives.  I can’t remember the name of the movie but this was probably the best female villain I’ve seen.

Popular culture – books, TV and movies – is not reality but it heavily influences people’s expectations and how they live their lives.  Many relate to TV characters as well as if not better than they relate to people in their lives, spending more time watching TV than they do interacting with real people face to face.  Even the webz, with its distance between user and victim, has changed human interaction.  Once upon a time, being bitchy would have been like a knife fight (up close and personal), or using a gun (backstabbing to friends to injure at a distance).  Now the internet acts like a remote controlled missile where the victim receives a written incendiary device or poison is spread via proxies to contaminate and destroy.  Both scenarios give the villain a comfortable distance, avoiding the need to see the pain and hurt on the victim’s face.

‘By why would people do this?’ you ask.

On the lower slopes of Mount Success, the fight for advantage is bitter, vicious.  Women rake their long, painted nails into the faces of innocent bystanders in their endeavours to claw their way up the bloody pile of bodies.  Cohorts gang together and Queen B___s summon lesser minions to unite in one cause: forcing selected individuals out and down, enabling the victors to climb upon broken backs to reach new heights.  Oblivious to the potential for unity to result in a Tower of Babel reaching for the stars, these gangs prefer the confusion and strife inflicted upon humanity by the legendary god or gods of old.

Unnoticed, some people slip away from the battles being waged in the Fields of Tradition.  They flee alone or with a small group of friends to explore new territory and build sandcastles where no bullies can find them to assault their spires.

Others inadvertently venture into this war-ravaged country only to be assaulted by those on the fringe and ignored by those in the midst of the melee.  Some accidental immigrants lie bruised and bloody about the battlefield, while others escape, seeking safety in shelters built too close to the battlefield.  The more entrepreneurial warmongers see these houses as potential rubble, a foundation for their empire-building.  At the very least, these houses will be used as target practice for archers and ballista commanders defending their borders.

I watch, grief stricken, as I see people injured and lives wasted.  I dream of empires built with collaboration creating true power and wealth for many, while weeping over the empire that, at war with itself, cannot stand.

Life imitates art.  If true bitchiness (catty nastiness) was exposed as the last resort of the weak and contrasted with role models wielding true power, a shift would occur in those who ‘consume that culture’.

WorldCon and disability access

disability access at Chicon7

See you up there!

The World SF convention started in 1939.  In the past 73 years, it seems no-one has realised that it’s difficult for mobility impaired members to get to panels or that they might need a little extra space.  If the elevators are so crowded that wheelies (mobility impaired people using scooters or chairs) can’t get in them, then I suggest that walkies wait, encouraging them to walk up the bloody stairs!  Apparently no-one has suggested having areas set aside for mobility impaired people who might arrive late due to difficulties navigating crowded corridors.  Of course, there’s no precedent in the real world for provision of disability access in this way.

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Suicide Awareness Day

Last night someone told me today is suicide awareness day, so I’ve been lying awake thinking about suicide and what to say.  Suicide is a difficult topic: many avoid discussing suicide and its more respectable sibling Euthanasia.  If someone attempts suicide and doesn’t succeed, there’s a perception that it’s just ‘attention-seeking behaviour’, but often failed attempts are part of a downward spiral.  If someone commits suicide, relatives have a cloud hanging over them, a cloud of social stigma born of a taboo or social solecism.  Relatives of a suicide are more likely to suicide themselves.  Media reporting of suicide is dodgy at best because often a reported suicide, especially of someone famous, will be followed by a string of copycats.

Suicide is often preceded by a sense of hopelessness, of futility, often caused by depression, which can be either chemical (fixed by a drug) or reactive depression (caused by life events such as learned helplessness). Sometimes a life-changing event such as Wall Street crashing in the thirties or an accident causing disability is the trigger for suicide: suicide is often seen as a way out when all seems lost.

Many years ago I went to a small country school.  My best friend was Shona (not her real name), a gawky ranga with coke bottle glasses who loved Doctor Who as much as I.  We found each other in grade 4 after I changed schools mid-year; before then I think she hung around with her younger cousins.  Shona was very proud of her family, and made sure I met them all, even when this meant getting her older cousin, Gary (not his real name), to come to the invisible boundary in the playground between grades 3/4 and 5/6 to say hi.

As an adult I used to visit Shona, and one time ended up at a party in Scamander where Gary and his fiancée were the centre of attention.  Gary was a good-looking young man with a job at Telstra or Telecom or whatever the phone company was called in the late 1980s.   Gary’s girlfriend Lydia (not her real name) was a bitch.  Lydia made a point of telling Shona and I that we weren’t welcome.  Gary hugged and kissed Lydia, gently reminding her that Shona was his cousin and I was Shona’s friend.  Even so, with aroma of ‘fucking bitch’ in the air I headed out to hang out elsewhere until it was time to leave.  When daylight dawned, Lydia made it clear that Shona and I would not be given a lift back; I set out to hitch-hike back and Shona, fearing that Lydia would win this battle, came with me.

One day I received a phone call from Shona who was deeply distressed.  Gary had been taken to hospital in Launceston because he’d shot himself.  He was still alive but Shona, being a cousin and not immediate family, was only receiving delayed updates.  Shona went to Launceston, but I was in Hobart with my toddler (from a teen pregnancy) and my job in the Department of Community Services and Health (Australian Public Service) so I had no means of being in Launceston for her.

Later Shona told me Gary worked long hours doing sometimes dangerous tasks on the phone lines but he was heading up the foodchain; Gary’s boss had chosen him for a promotion. Shona also told me that Gary’s father made his life hell.  Gary was another pregnancy that ‘forced’ a marriage back in the 1960s, just like with my parents.  Gary’s dad ‘did the right thing’ and married his pregnant girlfriend but he hated Gary and singled him out for abuse, while he loved – or at least tolerated – his younger kids.

Lydia cheated on Gary and gave him a hard time.  One night Gary and Lydia had a fight then Gary headed home.  On the way home Gary had a car accident. He got out and walked away, leaving the car behind.  I think there was another car involved but everyone was ok, it was just vehicular damage.  Gary walked home, got a gun and put it to his head to escape what felt like a disaster.

Gary survived.  He was in intensive care for months before he started to make some improvements.  Gary was learning to move, to feed himself and to talk after months of therapy.  Gary’s father refused to see him, but his mum was there as often as possible.  Lydia didn’t leave for the hospital for a while – late the next day or maybe even a few days later.  Lydia, who wanted more than Gary could provide, who cheated and broke up with Gary, was pressured by their community into playing the loving girlfriend.  Lydia visited Gary regularly and helped with his rehabilitation, earning the stern approval of their community.

One day at work the office trainee who bullied me and treated me like a subordinate walked up to my desk after I’d been absent briefly.  He told me to sit down.  I looked at him belligerently and told him I was fine standing, although I’d been about to lower myself onto my chair.  He told me that he’d taken a call from Shona and that Gary had died suddenly.  I sat with a thump.

It’s been close to 13 years since that phone call and the follow-up conversations with Shona about WTF happened when Gary was getting better.  I’m vague about the details, why Gary died so suddenly after so long and improving so much.

Nearly the entire rural community turned out for the funeral.

Family and friends felt Gary’s loss the most, firstly his attempt, his survival as a severely disabled man and then his second death.  Shona told me later that Lydia moved away, pretty much severing ties with a large part of the community.

I don’t know how much Gary suffered from depression.  Gary’s father hating Gary hurt him deeply, shaping his world-view and self-image.  Gary loved Lydia but she was high maintenance.  When the relationship ended – or at the very least, became very unhealthy – Gary thought his world was coming to an end.  A little alcohol and a minor car accident, then Gary destroyed himself.  If only Gary had more resilience, more perspective, if only he had been able to hang on to thoughts of friends and family and career, maybe…

Other people aren’t as lucky as Gary and don’t have the family, friends and career that Gary had, leaving them even more vulnerable.

In Australia we have Lifeline (the crisis phone number is 13 11 14) and Beyond Blue (not a crisis service).  If you’re depressed or thinking of self-harm, or you know someone who is, contact a local agency to seek help.  If you don’t know where to go, talk to your local doctor.

London 2014

Loncon 3, the 72nd World Science Fiction Convention.
London, UK, 14-18 August 2014.
media@loncon3.org
London to host the greatest show in the galaxy

The World Science Fiction Convention (Worldcon) is coming to London in 2014 – and it’s bringing some of the biggest stars in science fiction and fantasy with it.  London was confirmed as the venue today (2 September 2012) at the 2012 Worldcon, currently taking place in Chicago. The 2014 Worldcon will be the seventh to take place in the UK and the third in London; the capital previously hosted the event in 1957 and 1965.

Loncon 3 will take place in the ExCeL conference centre in London’s Docklands from 14-18 August 2014. The confirmed Guests of Honour cover the fields of fiction, comics, art, criticism, publishing and fandom: Iain M. Banks, John Clute, Malcolm Edwards, Chris
Foss, Jeanne Gomoll, Robin Hobb and Bryan Talbot.

Worldcon joint chair Steve Cooper said: “We’re thrilled to be bringing the Worldcon back to London. We have fantastic guests and we’re building an exciting programme covering all aspects of science fiction and fantasy. “It doesn’t matter what area of this wide-ranging genre you’re passionate about – classic or modern, film or television, comics or cosplay. We’ll have something to interest, inform and entertain you.”

The Worldcon is held in a different city each year, and usually attracts around 5,000 science fiction and fantasy fans from across the globe. Highlights of the event include the Hugo Awards and the Masquerade, a spectacular live show showcasing fantasy and science fiction costumes. The programme has around a thousand individual items spread over five days, with panels, talks, workshops, quizzes, films, videos, autograph sessions and more.

Alice Lawson, joint chair, said: “Loncon 3 will bring the best of science fiction and fantasy into the heart of London, and we plan to make it a fully inclusive, family-friendly experience that is safe and accessible to all. “The 2012 Olympics and Paralympics demonstrated that London has outstanding facilities, infrastructure and volunteers, and we hope to attract a record-breaking number of fans. I’m looking forward to welcoming them to London in 2014.”

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Hugo Awards

Chicon sent this press release with the complete Hugo Award lineup:
Sunday, September 2, 2012

Chicago, Illinois, USA – Chicon 7, the 70th World Science Fiction Convention (Worldcon), is pleased to announce the 2012 Hugo Award and John W. Campbell Award Winners. 1922 valid ballots were received and counted in the final ballot.

Best Novel: Among Others by Jo Walton (Tor)

Best Novella: “The Man Who Bridged the Mist” by Kij Johnson (Asimov’s, September/October 2011)

Best Novelette: “Six Months, Three Days” by Charlie Jane Anders (Tor.com)

Best Short Story: “The Paper Menagerie” by Ken Liu (The Magazine of Fantasy & Science Fiction, March/April 2011)

Best Related Work: The Encyclopedia of Science Fiction, Third Edition edited by John Clute, David Langford, Peter Nicholls, and Graham Sleight (Gollancz)

Best Graphic Story: Digger by Ursula Vernon (Sofawolf Press)

Best Dramatic Presentation (Long Form): Game of Thrones (Season 1) (HBO)

Best Dramatic Presentation (Short Form): “The Doctor’s Wife” (Doctor Who) (BBC Wales)

Best Editor (Short Form): Sheila Williams

Best Editor (Long Form): Betsy Wollheim

Best Professional Artist: John Picacio

Best Semiprozine: Locus, edited by Liza Groen Trombi, Kirsten Gong-Wong, et al.

Best Fanzine: SF Signal, edited by John DeNardo

Best Fan Writer: Jim C. Hines

Best Fan Artist: Maurine Starkey

Best Fancast: SF Squeecast, Lynne M. Thomas, Seanan McGuire, Paul Cornell, Elizabeth Bear, and Catherynne M. Valente

The John W. Campbell Award for the best new professional science fiction or fantasy writer of 2010 or 2011, sponsored by Dell Magazines (not a Hugo Award): E. Lily Yu

The 2012 Hugo Award winners were announced on Sunday evening, September 2, at the Hyatt Regency Hotel in Chicago. The ceremony was hosted by Chicon 7 Toastmaster John Scalzi.

The 2012 Hugo trophy base was designed by artist Deb Kosiba, who had also previously designed the bases for the 2005 and 2006 Worldcons.

Chicon 7 also presented a Special Committee Award to Chicago resident and science fiction author, editor, and collector Robert Weinberg.

The Hugo Awards are the premier award in the science fiction genre, honoring science fiction and fantasy literature and media as well as the genre’s fans. The awards were first presented at the 1953 World Science Fiction Convention (“Worldcon”) in Philadelphia (Philcon II), and Worldcons have continued to present the awards annually for nearly 60 years.

For more information about the Hugo Awards, please visit www.thehugoawards.org.

I heard a rumour – via email from the organisers actually – that it’s London for 2014.  Will you be there?

Amazon is coming to Oz

That’s right people:  Amazon is opening a branch in Australia in 2013.  I have mentioned this before but the announcement seems to have passed people by.  Today at the Melbourne Writers Festival, I asked a panel consisting of Roderick Poole, Michael Heyward and Henry Rosenbloom – the CEOs of Writers Victoria, Text Publishing and Scribe Publishing respectively – about the impact of Amazon opening in Oz.  Their unanimous reaction was ‘WHAT?!’  Then Roderick asked a large room of people if they’d heard this news; no-one else had.  ’Sif I would be mistaken about something this huge.

This link advertised (and has ‘no longer’ advertised) this job as follows:

Sales Engineer – Amazon Web Services Rackspace Softlayer IaaS
Location Sydney NSW 2000
Salary $90,000 to $120,000 p.a.
Industry IT & Telecommunications
Reference no. 1289659_CITIJW
Company name IT Jobs | CITI Recruitment
Date listed 31 July 2012 (Posted 25 days 9 hours ago)
Sales Engineer – Amazon Web Services Rackspace Softlayer IaaS
Sydney CBD
Competitive salary and package available !

See how many times SYDNEY was mentioned?  And this is only one of many jobs advertised for Amazon in Australia.

On April 18 2012 the Sydney Morning Herald reported that Amazon was looking to purchase warehouses in Australia.  I’ve heard that Amazon has purchased warehouses in Australia but I haven’t confirmed this claim.

Michael Heyward, CEO of Text Publishing, said that Australian emerging authors have traditionally been supported by independent booksellers – your local bookshops – where people have discovered these fresh new authors.  (Not a direct quote but as near as I can recall to Michael’s intent.)

UPDATE:  Valerie Khoo tweeted this link to a Sydney Morning Herald article about Amazon’s ‘worst kept secret’ being Amazon’s intentions to provide Australian-based cloud support (web hosting service).  From what I’ve heard, this cloud support is actually the first step in setting up the IT infrastructure for Amazon online sales in Australia.  Time will tell.

Tsana Dolchiva pointed out that the biggest threat to local retailers would be same day delivery service.

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Through the Looking Class: being schooled by the SMoFs

The Inner Cabal, a small but enlightened kingdom ruled meticulously by the Big Name in Fandom (BNF) and his council, the Secret Masters of Fandom (the SMoFs), have most graciously pointed out to me the error of my ways.

Papa SMoF

Papa SMoF

I have created an online-magazine, falsely claiming it to be a fanzine.  The BNF has gently pointed out that fanzines are not about the genre of science fiction and fantasy, but are instead about the fans who worship at his shrine.  By ignoring the well of wisdom and history lovingly maintained by the Inner Cabal, I have robbed you, cherished reader, of the opportunity to enrich your life by reading about the esteemed activities of fans in locations as far flung as the capital of BNF’s kingdom.

The High Priestess herself, consort of BNF, has graciously offered her subjects’ time and energy to school me.  It is very difficult to find female SMoFs, thus I am over-awed by her generosity in bestowing her unique time and attention upon my poor self.  Her Highness is most displeased with my arrogance in daring to start a fanzine without first kneeling at the SMoFs’ feet to learn the secret arts of the fanzine editor.  Had I knelt at the feet of older and wiser men before having the temerity to venture forth on my own, I would have learnt to emulate their standards, reproducing a lesser imitation of their glorious works instead of creating something offensively different.

When a certain venerable elder, the Merlin of BNF’s kingdom, wrote to me criticising Dark Matter, offering no positive comment nor, indeed, any comment other than ‘downsize or fold’ amidst expressing his ire, I should have immediately repented upon my knees.  Instead, I responded by flippantly calling that august personage a ‘hater’ and disregarded his pearls of wisdom cast before myself, a comparative swine.

Merlin most generously added me to an emailing list without my knowledge; in my deplorable ingratitude I considered unsolicited emails to be spam!  Oh, the ignominy of my arrogance causes my face to flame with embarrassment, in this, the hour of my humiliation!  To think I had not noticed these emails amidst the flood of unsolicited and solicited mail I receive, oh shame!  When I searched for these emails I discovered, to my consternation and horror, that Google appears to have intercepted them, mistakenly discarding them as spam on my behalf.  These emails served as carrier pigeons for words of wisdom like cherished morsels falling from BNF’s banquet table to nourish impoverished vagrants beneath.  Alas, I am inconsolable.

The Inner Cabal has raised a number of charges against me; like Galileo pressed by the Church, I confess and repent of all!

UPDATE:  Reliable sources inform me that the woman I mistakenly described as Her Majesty the Queen is, in fact, called High Priestess.  Complete with capital letters.  I stand corrected and have made the necessary changes. 

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fanzine vs semi-prozine

‘Is this a thing?’ I hear you ask.  ’Yes, it is,’ I reply with a world-weary air.  I was perplexed at first but I’ve done my research.

‘Zine’:  a magazine-type thing whether online or in paper format

‘Fanzine’: a magazine-type thing that either breaks even or runs at a loss; no-one gets paid in $$ although contributors and staff can receive free schwag like books to review, coffee mugs, tee-shirts etc.  I interpreted this definition from the Hugo Awards.  Dark Matter runs at a loss even with the much-appreciated donations from my one and only donor who wishes to stay anonymous.  The things I’ve given away – books, DVDs and movie passes – have all been given to Dark Matter for promotional purposes.  It’s taken a lot of my time and effort to follow through with these promotions FOR FREE.  I haven’t received a cent for my  time and effort.  No-one who has received free promotional time & space has ever made a ‘donation’.

‘Semi-prozine’:  a magazine-type thing that pays contributors in $$, more than little bits of schwag.  I haven’t worked out the difference between ‘semi-prozine’ and a ‘professional’ publication.  Locus is a semi-prozine: it pays contributors and people purchase the zine, they pay $$ for Locus while Dark Matter is free.

Why is this a problem?  Other fanzine editors have stated in writing on the webz and in their publications that Dark Matter is a semi-prozine is a problem because contributors will expect to get paid.  And when I can’t pay them, they may change their minds about contributing, believing that I’m ripping them off or singling them out.

Some fanzine editors have openly admitted that the reason for putting Dark Matter in the semi-prozine category is that they think Dark Matter’s standard is ‘too high’ for a fanzine category.  Let’s position the bar for a limbo contest rather than encouraging excellence in the science fiction and fantasy community, shall we?

These fanzine editors may also be intentionally sabotaging Dark Matter by deliberately causing problems with potential contributors.

Not impressed.

If anyone is concerned about the veracity of my claim to fanzine status, you can check out the frequency of my interstate and overseas trips, admire my chauffeur-driven limousine and my uber-fashionable-brand-name wardrobe.  :P

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Homophobic Hypocrisy

Lately there has been a lot of discussion in social media about homosexuality and equal rights particularly pertaining to the right to marry.  I’ve been flamed previously for making pro-Christian comments and for making pro-equality statements, so here I am coming out of the closet on my views.

I am almost ashamed to admit it, but I’m a Christian of sorts.  My beliefs aren’t orthodox and I’ve had lots of conflict with church leaders over the years.  For example, I believe:
*  God is not male, God is a spirit who ‘created humankind in [God's] own image, male and female [God] created them‘, so God is the best of both sexes and GOD DOES NOT HAVE A PENIS.  (NB: ‘created’ means helped or guided evolution; the Bible was written by a primitive people in more primitive times)
*  Jesus said the most important commandments were to love God and love one another.  Jesus said don’t judge others or you’ll be judged by the same standard you apply to other people: in other words, before you start  meddling in other people’s lives, sort out your own shit.  This includes ensuring no leader in the church is a paedophile, committing adultery, fornication, abusing spouse or children, all church leaders should abide by laws such as paying the correct amount of tax and driving within the speed limit etc.
*  women are created equal to men

I linked this image from George Takei on facebook today.

George Takei pro-equality flow chart

The conversation that followed went like this:
Stephen: Not accurate, but I guess you figure those that disagree won’t comment.
Me: what are you disagreeing with specifically? In Corinthians Paul says women shouldn’t have short hair and they should keep their hair covered or they would bring condemnation onto themselves and their church. This was cultural: a woman with short hair in that culture was assumed to have been caught in prostitution. Covering themselves was either referring to wearing something on their heads (cultural) or being ‘under headship’ i.e. the authority of a man. The latter was cultural as well, and the necessity of which is effectively contradicted in a number of places in the Bible. If you’re going to argue that women are still supposed to be subordinate to men, this conversation is over.
Stephen:  I’m not going to get into this here. It’s designed to appear to be addressing concerns Christians have. It doesn’t. It’s made to look like it offers reasonable alternatives from the Bible. It doesn’t. It’s having a go at people who believe different than the author. That is all.
Me:  so you’re against allowing non-Christian homosexuals to marry.
Stephen: ”I’m not going to get into this here.” I’ve commented on a post on my wall. One I disagree with. I’ll leave it there.
So Stephen commented on my wall in a passive-aggressive manner and then, instead of entering into a fair argument on my wall where people who agree with both sides may enter the argument, he took the argument to his wall where the argument would predominantly be one-sided.

I’ve known Stephen for 22 years.  I know he knows church leaders who have committed tax fraud: one elder instructed a pastor in how to claim his wife’s non-business sports care and their entire petrol usage for 2 sports cars as a business expense.  Other people we both know include a few couples on the youth committee who had sex before marriage while in leadership (they remained in leadership if sufficiently well connected within the church).  A pastor we both know told a battered wife that her husband ‘wouldn’t feel the need to hit [her] if [she was] a better wife.’  I know many worse stories involving Christians in leadership who have made homophobic statements, but I’m trying to only think of people that Stephen and I both know.

While I was a member of the church we shared, a former pastor attended a course on ethics at the bible college.  In the first lesson that former pastor told everyone that he believed that there was a special place in hell for homosexuals.  I was the first person to step up and challenge him, followed shortly afterwards by two other people who went on to become leaders in the church (she was the daughter of another pastor, he became her husband; this is why they got away with this kind of behaviour).  The lecturer did not intervene for some time, and when he did intervene it was only to close down the argument.

In hindsight I should have dropped out of that course immediately, because it set the tone for a hellish year, including setting a precedent for another student abusing me for an hour and a half for an assignment where I presented on equality of the sexes; that student also approached the principle of the school demanding that I be expelled.  The principle had made a point of attending my oral presentation and informed that student that the college agreed with my position on that topic.  Not all Christians in leadership have superior entitlement issues.

After years in churches where homophobia was the norm, one of my favourite people came out of the closet to me.  Most of our friends didn’t know he was gay but we got on so well he even approached me – very gently – about possibly having a child for him and his partner.  I couldn’t carry a child and give it away so I said no.  This didn’t impact on our friendship at all; it was only when my family and I moved to Adelaide and he moved to Sydney that we lost touch.

There were so many things this friend said that got me thinking.  Like the above image from George, I came to the conclusion that the Bible was anti-homosexual in an era when diversity of the gene pool was important.  Even so, the Bible acknowledges that homosexuality existed even from ancient times.

The apostle Paul made statements against homosexuality: this is fact.  It is also fact that Paul was also against heterosexual relationships.  Paul’s ideal was for no sexual relationship whatsoever, but if people were so weak that they absolutely had to have sex then he wanted people to be married.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband…. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am [celibate].  

Chapter 7 continues on, talking about Paul’s recommendation for people to remain single but to get married if they really want sex.  Paul deserted his wife to hunt down and destroy Christians then converted to Christianity but didn’t return to his wife, he stayed celibate.  He then tells other people how to live their lives including advocating celibacy as the better path.

Paul’s arguments are entirely invalid for people who are not Christians who also do not live in Ancient Rome as Paul was talking to Christians about what Christians should do.  Paul wasn’t telling Christians to dictate to their broader culture.  Homosexuality was accepted practice in Paul’s time and yet he doesn’t tell Christians to go out and campaign against homosexuality, denying homosexuals equal rights.  Paul talks about evangelism – converting people to Christianity – and about how Christians should live in that day and age.  Period.

Jesus said of the woman caught in adultery, ‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.’  The woman caught in adultery is an example of non-conformist sexuality in Jesus’ time.  Once everyone who came to condemn the woman had left, Jesus said to the woman that he did not condemn her either.  Christians who condemn consenting adults are acting against Jesus’ better example, hypocritically proclaiming self-righteousness.  Christians who call upon Paul’s teaching to support anti-homosexual campaigns should also be celibate as Paul recommended.

Christians taking these aggressive accusatory stances are dividing communities while behaving like Pharisees and Sadducees.  Instead of judging others whilst at fault themselves, how about extending the hand of friendship and working towards a more loving, accepting, world?

What did Jesus do?

Condolences

Dark Matter, minions and volunteers, offer their condolences to all affected by the tragedy in Aurora, all the victims – whether injured or not – their families and their friends, and the emergency workers.

Art by Dean Bhishma Rankine, thanks to Darren Close of Killeroo for the link.